Category: Dear Alexander Self Reflective Writings

Envy: a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck. Jealous: feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages. You’re used to fighting against the feeling of envy and jealousy. It often leaves a bitter unpleasant taste in your minds tongue when...Continue reading

“Our self is in constant fluctuation. If you’re constantly listening to what other people are saying and sharing on social media, you’re never understanding who you are. You’ve become a reflection of other people.” — Robert Greene Social media and the internet has become the most significant double edged sword of the 21st century. You have experienced it’s...Continue reading

“People say you’ve done so much, why don’t you have all your accomplishments and awards hanging up? Everybody wants to be proud of themselves, when you finally become proud of yourself you no longer give a flying fuck what it took to get there. The feeling I have in my mind is priceless.” — David Goggins You...Continue reading

Almost everyone is a combination of screwed up, broken, clingy and scared. Almost everyone is petty, narcissistic and secretly insecure. There was a quote you read today, “Come to terms with your brokenness” This seems like the first necessary step to grow through your inadequacies; to acknowledge your demons and darkness. You’ve played around with...Continue reading

This idea is not mutually exclusive to family. You shouldn’t feel morally obligated to support your family, whether it be a father, mother, sister, brother etc, IF they are dragging you down and making your life more hellish. Being family doesn’t exclude them for taking responsibility for their actions. Culture has attached these grand emotional...Continue reading

It seems that life is made up of a finite number of breaths. As each one passes, you grow nearer to your last. But don’t let that dissuade you from living and taking advantage of the next breath you have. Let it ignite a fire under you to live in service to excellence, and make...Continue reading

The information that has previously served you, may not serve you today. The knowledge you thought was correct yesterday, may not be correct today. The ideas and beliefs you associate your character with, may need to be destroyed and reconfigured. The moral of the story is, don’t get attached to who you think you are,...Continue reading

You’ve heard it countless times… Slow down. Don’t rush. Take your time. You think that by moving with haste and speed you can be more efficient and save time. While this may be true in the short term, in the long term, it seem’s to be mostly ineffective. Potential time you save in rushing, you...Continue reading

When emotional volatility spurs itself in the form of chaotic emotions such as frustration, or anger, remember this: “The question to ask is not, ‘What’s wrong with this person?’ but ‘What does this irritation tell me about myself?’” — Anthony de Mello It is up to you to take onus of your emotions and feelings. It is NOT...Continue reading

It’s a painful confronting though to truly comprehend how much of what your doing is not productive. How much time do you waste? You define ‘waste’ however you want. Let’s say you waste 2 hours a day. That’s 14 hours a week. 728 hours a year. 30 days. So what’s a productive hour of your...Continue reading

When confronted with an image of who you think you are, versus the reality of who you actually are…don’t run…meet the collision head-on and become who you really are. If you simply retreat and accept “ignorance is bliss”, you live your life as a lie — your identity becomes a lie, and you come to find the...Continue reading

I sometimes worry you’re veracious hunger for self education can leave you running in place and going nowhere —like a dog with a leash you desire to explore and continue to learn far and wide to satisfy you’re curiosity. But be careful about dipping into states of unfocused ambition.

It kill’s me to see people use “being old” as an excuse to stop moving forward. You’re so young — letting you’re chronological age stop you from taking action on any ambition you have is a huge mistake!

Lying is very powerful. You can manipulate the world around you with your language to get what you want or escape things you don’t want.

It’s very easy to loose yourself in your identity by connecting who you are to what you do.

You feel like you can positively influence a lot of people. You feel like you have to mitigate pain and suffering in others. If only you could structure the perfect number of words together in the perfect order you might be able to inspire them on a better path.

It’s usually the people that are the unlock and key to your next step rather than more information. You never know who that person you just rolled up on and said ‘hello’ to might be. It’s easy to discriminate on face value — try not to because that person could become one of the most important people...Continue reading

Care about what everyone sais…but don’t care about what anyone sais.

How do I balance the chaos of running multiple different projects at once while giving each the attention and love they need?